Build a life where you are supported, not just relied upon
Your needs are a priority, not something you have to earn
I Matter is a private 8-month mentorship for female leaders who are ready to stop overriding their needs, feel safe to express themselves, and receive support in their life and relationships.
Why so many women like you struggle to ask for what you need
Most female leaders fall into one or all three camps:
01
Your needs constantly
fall to the
bottom of the pile
02
You feel guilt
or shame when
you say no
03
You hold everything
together to avoid things falling apart
What all three camps have in common: you can’t create meaningful impact while abandoning and exhausting yourself
If you’ve been stuck in patterns of self-sacrifice, it’s not because you lack awareness, it’s because your nervous system has learned that being needed feels safer than being fully authentic.
This isn’t just a mindset shift,
it’s a nervous system pattern.
I Matter is a private 8-month mentorship for female leaders that retrains how your body responds in moments where you would normally override your needs. Learn how to finally set boundaries without guilt, say what you need and feel supported in your life and relationships.
You’re also at risk of getting stuck in cycles like this
As a generous female leader, you’re at high risk of burnout
Of course you want a life that allows you to live life on your own terms, where you are able to ask for what you need
But, you’re the one everyone depends on, the one who holds it all together, while underneath, you feel the quiet exhaustion of never being held in the same way.
You often feel that something isn’t working in how much you’re carrying… but when it comes to naming what you need or asking for it, you hesitate, second-guess, or choose to avoid ‘rocking the boat’.
You’re deeply attuned to others, their needs, and emotions, but feel increasingly disconnected from your own instincts, desires, and inner clarity, often left confused around what will really serve you.
You take on more than is yours because you don’t trust that it will be tended to without you, even when part of you knows it’s unsustainable and it would be better to delegate responsibilities.
Your incredibly self-aware, but when it matters most, your body still pulls you back into over-functioning, over-giving, and overriding yourself and you end up frustrated.
You should be able to create meaningful impact without abandoning yourself
An intimate high-touch journey from
self-sacrifice to self-sovereignty
Inside the ‘I Matter’
Mentorship you learn how to:
Through using Somatic Experiencing® Therapy and Authentic Relating tools, you’ll access the exact frameworks and integrative methods you need to regulate your nervous system, build unshakeable self-trust, and create a life that finally reflect your true value.
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You become the woman who feels calm, clear, and anchored in herself, no matter what’s happening around her.
You no longer need everything to be perfect to feel okay, because you trust your ability to come back to yourself. Inside I Matter, you stop looking outside yourself for clarity, and learn to read and regulate your nervous system in real time, with direct support.
In our sessions we focus on:Identifying your unique nervous system patterns through in-session work
Building a personalised regulation toolkit you can rely on daily
You’ll be able to:
Understand what you’re feeling and respond instead of react
Move through emotional intensity without spiralling
Return to a grounded, steady state quickly
Create a new baseline of safety in your body
This is where you start trusting yourself by really listening. -
You stop questioning yourself, and start honouring what you actually want.
You become a woman who knows her needs are valid and expects to be met. Inside I Matter, you will stop abandoning yourself to be chosen and reconnect with what you truly desire, feeling safe to own it
Together, we:Uncover your real needs beneath your conditioning and patterns
Explore where you’ve been self-sacrificing yourself
Build safety around wanting more
You’ll be able to:
Learn to recognise what your needs and desires are
Trust your needs without questioning them
Learn to honour what feels right,
This is where you embody deep self-trust, and are met accordingly.
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You become the woman who can stay open, even in the moments that used to de-stabilise you. Instead of reacting, avoiding, or over-giving, inside I Matter you learn to stay present and connected through intensity, to yourself and others. Able to create space for uncomfortable conversations.
In our work together, we:
Break down your triggers
Practice staying open through activation
Real-time conversation support
Conflict template scripts
You will develop the ability to
Stay grounded during conflict
Express what’s real for you
Cultivate deeper intimacy with others
This is where you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, and invite in more secure dynamics that are mutually respectful.
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Your worth is not something you earn. It’s something you embody.
Inside I Matter, your value becomes non-negotiable. You feel empowered and worthy without feeling the need to change who you are.
Together, we:Rewire the patterns that condition your worth
Build self-trust through aligned action
Strengthen your internal sense of value
You begin to:
Feel secure in who you are
Make decisions from self-respect, not people-pleasing tendencies
Stop tolerating less than you deserve
You become calm, clear, and self-led.
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Inside I Matter you become the woman who knows her standards, and lives by them. Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away, they’re a form of self-care knowing where you end and another person begins.
In this phase, we:
Clarify what you’re no longer available for
Practice boundary-setting in your real-life situations
Work through guilt, fear, and pushback together
You develop the ability to:
Say no without guilt
Express boundaries with calm clarity
Learn to let go of relational weight that doesn’t meet you in reciprocity
Maintain relationships rooted in respect
You don’t just know your worth, you become the embodiment of it.
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You become the woman who is clear, expressed, and deeply met.
Inside I Matter, you learn to stop abandoning your voice, saying what you want or your nervous system impulses.You communicate your desires, lovingly and firmly in a way that creates new roles for people in your life. Welcoming support, as a way to elevate and expand your power, that you can lean on.
Together, we:
Refine how you communicate your needs
Practice real conversations you’re navigating
Build confidence in being seen and heard
You begin to:
Make requests clearly and confidently
Feel safe being seen in your needs
Trust in the support that is offered to you
Experience more consistency and reliability
This is where you stop making assumptions, and start being met.
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You no longer live your life in reaction to everyone else’s needs. You become the woman who builds her life around what matters to her.
Inside I Matter, you will restructure your time, energy, and decisions around your true priorities that are informed by the energy capacity you have on hand. You become discerning with how you use your time and come back to yourself.
In this phase, we:
Align your time, energy, and decisions with your priorities
Identify where you’re still overextending
Build a way of life that supports you, and reflects who your becoming
You develop the ability to:
Stop overcommitting and overpromising
Make aligned decisions centred in your NS capacity
Create a life that feels spacious and fulfilling not exhausting
This is where you move from living by default… to living by intentional design.
I created this programme to give you the roadmap I had to build from scratch
Personalised support to shift the patterns that keep you stuck, that’s exactly what you receive inside I Matter.
One-to-One Coaching
Unlock access to bi-weekly coaching with Nicole, a nervous system and authentic relating expert. Nicole will hold you accountable and ensure you maintain momentum in cultivating your awareness, deepening your understanding, and supporting you to transform your insights into embodied behaviour change.
Value: $17,000
Self-Empowerment
Workbook
This workbook is the culmination of tools and best practices, organised in a particular order to be effective, and it’s yours to keep forever. There are over 30+ tools you can use and refer back to embody your sovereignty more deeply.
Value: $3,500
Access to a Regulation
& Inspiration Notion
Receive access to Nicole’s Notion resources vault. Incredible in moments where you need dysregulation support, templates
for hard conversations, or a list of resources or books
to further educate yourself.
Value: $5,000
Responsiveness for
Crucial Moments (24hrs)
You’ll have voice-note access between sessions for real-time guidance, integration, and momentum. Reach out in crucial moments that are more sensitive and require immediate support and attention.
Value: $1,500
Testimonials
Listen to other people’s stories
Eleanor, Behavioural Analyst
Somatic Experiencing Client
“Sounds a little over the top, but it was a truly life changing practice.”
Beata, Head of HR
'I Matter’ Client
“I now speak up, have boundaries, and say no.
It comes far more easily to me now.”
Sofia, Head of Regeneration
’I Matter’ Client
“I now feel fully backed up by myself, I feel very empowered.”
I’ve been there,
its exhausting…
I’m Nicole, founder of Trust Your Nature.
I’m an IFS-informed, Somatic Experiencing® Therapist and Authentic Relating facilitator.
My whole life has been focused on purpose, whether working with social impact companies like United Nations or on my own business Primal Gathering. I have always been surrounded by visionary people, big ideas, and a shared desire to create a better world.
On the outside, it looked meaningful. Aligned. Impactful.
But inside… I was completely depleted. Giving more than I had to offer. Holding space, supporting others, showing up again and again…but not being met in the same way.
I was exhausted and miserable.
I used to feel powerless
until I learnt to listen to
my nervous system
I had no real sense of safety in my body.
No clear connection to my own needs.
No ability to say no without guilt or second-guessing myself. So I overextended and eventually burned out.
Like so many big-hearted, high-capacity women leading, holding, and giving so much,
I was creating impact in the world, while quietly abandoning myself in the process.
But when I began to understand my nervous system. To feel what safety actually feels like in my body. I stopped leading from obligation and started leading from self-trust.
Now, I support visionary women like you, do the same. To transform patterns of self-sacrifice at the root, and step into grounded, embodied self-sovereignty.
So your leadership no longer comes at the cost of yourself, because you matter.
You are exactly the female leader I had in
mind when I created
I Matter If…
You feel like you’re doing the work… you’re self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and committed to your growth, but in the moments that actually matter, you still find yourself overthinking, second-guessing, or losing your centre. You want to feel calm, clear, and anchored in yourself, not just sometimes, but consistently. You’re ready to trust yourself fully, you just don’t know how to hold onto that in real time.
You feel like you give a lot in your work and personal relationships… you’re thoughtful, present, and deeply invested, but you’re not always being met in the way you truly want. You notice yourself over-accommodating, over-explaining, or subtly abandoning your needs to maintain connection. You want to feel met, supported, and chosen, without having to work so hard for it.
You don’t always feel fully connected to what you want… you can sense something’s off, or missing, but it’s not always clear what your needs actually are. And when something does come through, it’s easy to question it, soften it, or let it pass. You want to learn how to tune into yourself deeply, recognise what’s true for you, and from that place, say what you want clearly, hold your ground, and stay connected, without guilt, overthinking, or losing yourself.
You know, logically, that you’re a good woman… thoughtful, self-aware, someone who shows up. But when it comes to what you actually receive, love, support, consistency, there’s still a gap. You notice yourself tolerating less than you desire, questioning your standards, or needing reassurance to feel secure. You want to feel solid in your worth, make decisions from self-respect, and be the woman who knows her value and no longer negotiates on it.
You feel like you’re holding a lot, your life, your work, your relationships, and while from the outside it looks like you’re doing well, there’s a part of you that feels stretched, slightly disconnected, or not fully in your power. You want to feel self-led, spacious, and deeply aligned, like your life and relationships actually reflect who you are now.
High-achieving leaders
need to feel supported too
Because freedom is having a life that doesn't require you to self-sacrifice just to keep everything working
Join I Matter to stop overriding your needs in the moments that matter and feel more supported in your life and relationships.
This is where you
return to yourself
This space was created for you, the woman who holds everything together. The one who catalyses things into action, gives, creates, and shows up for others… often at the cost of yourself.
You’re incredibly thoughtful and deeply committed to making a difference in the world. And yet, somewhere along the way, you learned to override your own needs, to soften your voice and habitually carry more than is yours to do so because you have a generous heart.
The I Matter programme is an invitation to return to yourself. Here, you don’t have to prove your worth.
You get to remember it, and from that place, everything begins to change.
Ellie
“Working with Nicole has been a game changer for me, after a whole lifetime I am slowly starting to feel like I’m on my own team”
Sofia
“One of the biggest changes is that I say no more often, and I do it without feeling guilty.”
Beata
“I learnt that I matter. That I have a place in the world and a voice. It feels new to me - I feel a bit bold saying that, but I don’t care anymore. This is who I am, and I won’t apologise for it.”
